Matthew 10:34-39 (The Message)
34 "Don't think I've come to make life cozy. I've come to cut - 35 make a sharp knife-cut between son and father, daughter and mother, bride and mother-in-law - cut through these cozy domestic arrangements and free you for God. 36 Well-meaning family members can be your worst enemies. 37 If you prefer father or mother over me, you don't deserve me. If you prefer son or daughter over me, you don't deserve me. 38 "If you don't go all the way with me, through thick and thin, you don't deserve me. 39 If your first concern is to look after yourself, you'll never find yourself. But if you forget about yourself and look to me, you'll find both yourself and me.
Jesus didn’t come just to bless us into complacency, compliance, contentment;
He came to bless us into change. Change which can be disruptive, disturbing, difficult, even destructive on the outside, as it seeks to make more real what is on the inside.
Destructive that is of those systems which are not life giving, just, fair, sensitive, compassionate. Which are not doing good for the least as well as for the most. Even if they are a part of our family.
In the novel " The Invention of Wings" a father, who had been very set in his ways, causing his daughter much anguish as she was not able to live her life free of the shackles placed on her as a white woman In the Deep South in the early 1800’s; a white woman who detested slavery and wanted to set her personal slave free, are having their last conversation before he dies. She is caring for him alone, apart from the rest of the family. He awakens from a nap..
‘I held the water glass to his lips and helped him to drink. He said, “We’ve had our quarrels, haven’t we?” I knew what was coming and I wanted to spare him. To spare me. “It doesn’t matter now.” “You’ve always had a strong, separate mind, perhaps even a radical mind, and I was harsh with you at times. You must forgive me.” I couldn’t imagine what it cost him to say these words. “I do,” I said. “And you must forgive me.” “Forgive you for what, Sarah? For following your conscience? Do you think I don’t abhor slavery as you do? Do you think I don’t know it was greed that kept me from following my conscience as you have? The plantation, the house, our entire way of life depended on the slaves.” His face contorted and he clutched at his side a moment before going on. “Or should I forgive you for wanting to give natural expression to your intellect? You were smarter than even Thomas or John, but you’re female, another cruelty I was helpless to change.”
He didn't dare risk change. He died regretting it. Indeed, it is an awesome, challenging, life transforming thing to be open to change! It is at the center of a living faith!
"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy,
I'm telling you it's going to be worth it."
Prayer thoughts for the week’
Lord, help me: remember that I am not the only one who is right.
to be open to what I don’t want to hear.
to not be so sure I can’t change my mind or heart.
to remember that love is greater than principles.
